2 of 30 Genes
You will not be
here if you have an ancestor who
forgets to
have children
prefers his
own sex
succumbs to
diseases
crashes his
car into a tree
Nature sieves out
such people. They are less likely
to have any descendants. Imagine
from the beginning of Life (a million
years ago), every one of your
ancestors has succeeded in
passing the baton of Life down to the next
generation. Will
you fail them?
It is important
to understand the instinct of The
Genes.
For example, a
child with loving grandparents
has better chances of survival.
Extrapolate into the future, such
grandchild with similar
disposition towards grandchildren
will enhance the survival of his
descendants. Conclusion, genes
that love grandchildren survive.
Bottom line: Grandparents love
grandchildren.
It explains why
brothers love each other when
they are young and fight each
other when they are old to claim
assets for their children and
grandchildren. Nature encourages
such behavior, blame it on the
genes.
Imagine a
situation
Judge A has
only one son who is charged with
murder. Judge A is honest; he
finds him guilty and sentences
him to death.Judge B is faced
with the same dilemma. He asks
another judge to hear the case
and then does everything he can (lawfully
or unlawfully) to help.The son is
acquitted.
Judge A is
praised by the King and is
promoted. Judge B is found out;
demoted and punished but his son
survives to produce offspring.
Analysis
Judge A is
successful during his lifetime
but his genes die with him. Judge
B is a failure in life but he
succeeds in pushing his genes
into the future. So now, can you
guess what kind of human beings
are walking around with you today?
Of course, people who are like
Judge B. Such behavior is called
“human nature”.
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3 of 30 Know your
priorities
Love your wife and
your parents in the correct
proportions.
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here for Wife & Mother
4 of 30 Power shifts
Imagine a
situation
It is one o’clock
at night. You are lying in bed
with your partner. You have
just finished doing what young
people usually do at 1 am –
watching TV. You feel like having
a glass of milk. Do you (a) get out of
bed, get yourself a glass of milk,
or (b) ask
your partner to get the milk for
you?
If you
are the (b)
type – ask yourself
“Why am I asking my partner
instead of getting the milk
myself?”
Chances are
that you are asking your partner
to fetch milk because you
perceive you are the “stronger”
party in the relationship. Early
in a marriage, the young wife is
stronger, the husband wants sex.
She will usually ask the husband
to fetch things. As the
years go by, the balance may
shift and the husband ends up
bossing the wife around. The
situation is unhealthy.
Remember:
Power shifts in a marriage. Like
a sine curve (for those who know
their maths), power shifts up and
down. Today, you may be strong
but you may be weak tomorrow (eg
down by a stroke, get sack in
your job, crash into a tree).
Once
you realise this, what do you do
when you are strong? When you are
strong, you should treat your
weaker partner reasonably, so
that when you are weak, your
partner will treat you fairly too.
Do not bully
others and do not allow others to
bully you.
5 of 30 Integrity
When choosing a
wife, friend or business partner,
look for a person who has
integrity, is hardworking and
intelligent. Remember, integrity
is most important; a hardworking
and intelligent person with no
integrity can harm you. I make no
mention of beauty and wealth;
beauty may fade at 35 and wealth
is transient.
How do you spot
integrity ? Not easy. One
way is to see how he behaves
towards his parents, his siblings,
his friends, his subordinates.
6 of 30 Know your
electricity
Know that V equal
RI (V is voltage, R is resistance,
I is current). Know that Watt
divided by Voltage gives you
Current and how it adds up to 12
amperes (a household plug can
only take 12 amperes). Know where
the brown and green wires go in a
plug.
7 of 30 Know your physics
Know what is
latent heat of vaporisation and
how it works for the aircon and
the fridge. Know how the electric
motor works, what goes on in a
piston engine and why clothes dry
in a centrifugal dryer.
8 of 30 Know your
geography
Be aware of the
seasons, the solstice and equinox,
the 21st days of March, June,
September and December.
9 of 30 Know your mother
tongue
All signboards
leading to heaven are written in
Chinese (and in the mother tongue
of each traveller). Learn your
Chinese (or mother tongue) well.
10 of 30 Know your knots
Know how to tie
the reef knot, clove hitch, round
turn two half hitches, sheet bend
